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Confused About Love?
The Art and Science of Creating a Secure & Passionate Relationship

with Lion Goodman & Carista Luminare, PhD

Course Overview

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Are you confused about how to create a secure, loving relationship? Are you anxious about expressing your deepest needs to your partner? Do you feel clueless about how to sustain lasting intimacy?

You’re not alone. Most of the people we talk to are confused about love.

Join two partners who have cracked the code – Carista Luminare, Ph.D. and Lion Goodman – for 5 weeks of learning about the practical master keys that open the lock to mature, secure, passionate relationship.

There are 5 Keys to understanding love and creating the relationship you want:

  1. Learn how your "relationship attachment style" drives you to behave the way you do
  2. Learn how your partner's attachment style interacts with yours - and sabotages your relationship
  3. Learn how to use the 3 non-verbal "Love Languages" to cut through arguments and problems
  4. Engage in partner practices that deepen your security and amplify your passion
  5. Discover how to disrupt destructive patterns and create the deep, loving bond you've always wanted

You can create a secure and loving bond with your partner.
Join us to learn how.


Making your relationship work isn't rocket science. It's neurology! 
When you were a child, your experience with your parents programmed your adult relationship dynamics.  But you’re not stuck with those patterns. With awareness and practice, you can swiftly re-wire your body, mind and heart so you can have the relationship you want.

If you’re unhappy in your relationship, or you have a string of unsuccessful attempts, you can turn it around and enjoy a happy and fulfilling bond with your partner – but only if you have the keys in your hand. Learn the latest discoveries from neuroscience about the science of early childhood bonding, and specific practices that will re-secure your love bond, and expand your ability to be intimate -- whether you are in a relationship or not at this time.

Learn shortcuts and solutions that resolve
anxiety, insecurity and loneliness.

Do happy couples have the right genetics? Or is it fate?  Did they find the perfect soul-mate?   No -- It’s a function of their attachment style – the specific behaviors that create secure and intimate connection.  Is it learnable?  YES!

There's no magical secret involved. The scientific literature has been published. What we’ve done is bring it all together – research from developmental psychology, neurobiology, attachment theory, and trauma healing – into a practical set of solutions you can use to shift your relationship at the core to get what you really want – and deserve.

Confused About Love?  –  It’s time to get clear!


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Who Should Attend?

  • Singles who want to be in a secure, passionate relationship, but haven’t been able to create one.
  • Couples who want to get out of endless cycles of arguments, reactions, or processing.
  • People in relationships that are moving to the next level of intimacy (dating to committed relationship, moving in together, living together to marriage, etc.)
  • Couples who feel estranged from each other, and want to renew the spark and passion they had at one time, but lost somewhere along the way.
  • Couples who are considering divorce, but would like to find the magic key to renewing their love and commitment.

What You'll Learn

Week 1: How Your Early Childhood Bond Runs Your Love Life

We discuss the brain science beneath your relationship style, and describe the  attachment system that you developed during your childhood. Every infant needs a secure bond with his or her mother. Few of us got everything we needed. We explain why we repeat this pattern - over and over - in our adult relationships. 

Week 2: The 4 Relationship Attachment Styles: Which One Is Yours?

We describe the 4 fundamental Attachment Styles: Secure, Withdrawing, Anxious, and Traumatic, and how to identify your own and your partner’s particular style. What happens when two people with different styles fall in love? Confusion results, which leads to reactions, endless processing, arguments, and the downward spiral of disconnection. Yes, there is a swift way out of those old patterns and vicious cycles that keep occurring.

Week 3: The 5th Attachment Style: Heal Insecurity in Your Relationship

The 5th style, which we call "Healing Attachment", is the process of dedicating your relationship to healing the insecurities you each bring to your relationship. Learn how to create security, how to quiet the fire alarm in the limbic system, and provide your partner with what they really need to repair and restore trust quickly.  When you do, watch anxiety melt away, and passion magically blossom.

Week 4: How to Quiet the Mind with 3 Non-verbal Love Languages

The most important practice we teach is the use of 3 non-verbal love languages to break out of destructive patterns: arguments, fights, and escalated anger or withdrawal. The Limbic System acts like a fire alarm. When it's gone off, all you can do is panic. We'll teach you the step-by-step process of breaking your own and your partner's reactive state so you can settle back into calm, loving, conscious communication. Breaking these aggressive cycles is crucial to sustaining love and attraction. We call it "repair and restore."

Week 5: Practical Strategies That Work to Create and Sustain Loving Connection

We'll share many strategies for identifying danger signals, cooling down heated arguments, and returning to easy, open connection. We'll teach you - and your partner - to identify and communicate in advance when anxious feelings arise, and how to ask for what you really need. What strategies do you and your partner need to thrive as a couple, and deepen your bond? Join us and find out, then bring it home, and re-wire your brain for secure and passionate love.

What You’ll Get Out of the Course

Through practicing on your own and with your partner, you'll get:

  • A deeper love bond than ever before
  • The experience of security and trust with your partner
  • Longer periods of sustained connection and love – and fewer, shorter disconnects
  • Practical tools for cutting through negative patterns
  • More love, more fun, and more sustainable passion!

About Lion Goodman and Carista Luminare

Lion Goodman has 35 years experience as an executive coach, counselor, and healer.  In 1984, he founded The Goodman Group, an executive search and consulting firm that served more than 250 companies and C-suite executives during its 18-year history.  He has coached business owners, coaches, technology executives, and change agents around the world. He is co-founder of Luminary Leadership Institute, a consulting firm dedicated to bringing leaders of businesses and organizations into alignment with their highest virtues and their True Self.

Lion is the creator of the BeliefCloset Process, a proprietary methodology for shifting beliefs at the core of the psyche, which he has taught to hundreds of coaches and therapists internationally. He served as Director of Men's Programs at The Shift Network, an Internet-based educational organization, where he created programs with more than 20,000 participants. Lion has taught workshops and trainings across the U.S. and Europe. His writings have been widely published, and he is the author of three books: Creating on Purpose; Menlightenment: A Book for Awakening Men; and Transform Your Beliefs.

Carista Luminare, Ph.D.,  is co-founder of Luminary Leadership Institute. She has more than 30 years experience as a consultant, counselor and coach to executives, entrepreneurs, individuals and organizations. Her powerful, life-changing programs bring participants into direct experience and embodiment of their True Self. She has developed a comprehensive holistic parenting methodology, a financial program redefining security and wealth from the inside out, and LLI's leading-edge evolutionary leadership program.

After graduating from Harvard University in Psychology and Social Relations in 1978, Carista pioneered educational programs focused on the integration of the personality and soul. In her private healing practice, she integrates her lifelong research on childhood attachment, and how our early bonding patterns with our parents profoundly affect our primary adult relationship dynamics - including the relationship to our True Self. Carista is the author of the groundbreaking book, Parenting Begins Before Conception. She has lectured throughout the United States at conferences, hospitals, and universities, and has been featured in a variety of international media.

Praise for Lion Goodman and Carista Luminare

"Our time with you provided immense value. We took our committed relationship of 51 years to a new level. Did we need to be fixed? No…. but we continuously seek out new opportunities for growth in our relationship. Your program was one of these best gems that has come our way in quite awhile."
—Hardy and Annedore Hasenfuss, Thriving Business Partners

"You have given us new and powerful principles, which allowed us to discover our True Selves – as a couple as well as individually. This wisdom, combined with love, has rapidly empowered our lives. We now have an amazing set of tools to find and recognize these truths daily."
—Rick Young, CEO of Fortune 500 Franchise Company

"Our work gave me significant breakthroughs on issues I’ve been struggling with for years. Your strong, compassionate presence enabled me to drop quickly into vulnerable territory and shine light there, revealing the patterns. I now have a new perspective and practical strategies for moving forward."
—Lisa Schrader, Founder and CEO, Awakening Shakti

“On many levels, this was the most powerfully transformational seminar I’ve ever participated in.  It was touching to experience men and women caring deeply about how they had hurt each other. Don’t miss this chance to heal yourself in a safe and loving way.”
—Catherine Baumont, Healer, Boulder, CO

“I came to heal my relationship with men. I was able to be vulnerable and have my pain witnessed and honored.  The result was life-shifting and heart-opening.”
—Ellen Smith, Corporate Consultant, San Francisco, CA
“I was surprised how deeply I cracked open and transformed and healed archetypal dimensions of the split between masculine and feminine -- not only for myself, but for humanity as well.”
—Bob Dunham, Green Construction Manager, Santa Cruz, CA

“I was astounded by how the sharing some of our dark secrets gracefully created miracle healings -- not just for us as women, but for the men, as well.”
—Deborah Greenfield, Los Angeles, CA

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Lion Goodman is a transformational coach, author, workshop leader, public speaker, and businessman. He has explored the realms of psychology, spirituality, and business for more than 35 years. As an executive coach to both managers and entrepreneurs, he helps his clients achieve extraordinary personal and professional success by aligning with their virtues and their soul's purpose. Learn more about Lion & Carista »

Carista Luminare, Ph.D., is co-founder of Luminary Leadership Institute, and the author of the groundbreaking book, Parenting Begins Before Conception. She counsels individuals and couples who want to explore how their early childhood bonding styles profoundly impact their adult intimacy dynamics, and how to heal their past to co-create secure and passionate love.  She teaches a comprehensive methodology for leading an integrated life, The True Self Way.


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