Here are a few of our favorite Big Ideas + Other Cool Stuff from Week 4 of Steve Sisgold's 5-week course Whole Body Consciousness.
Steve Sisgold is an author and speaker who feels purpose and joy in helping people boost their mojo through his writing, storytelling, and humor.
Steve has taught thousands how to use their innate body intelligence to create better health, prosperity and richer personal and business relationships.
Steve holds an M.A. in Communications, a B.S. in Business and a Certification in body-centered psychotherapy. He is the author of three books, including What’s Your Body Telling You?, several audio and video programs, a musical CD and a documentary film, plus is a weekly blogger for Psychology Today.
THIS WEEK, we focused on how relationships feel in our body.
Let's check out some of our favorite Big Ideas from this week:
Big Idea #1: Polarity Relationships
When we experience a relationship where another person has a higher status than us, it's common that dynamic will show up in our other relationships, and we might even project that dynamic onto others.
These are Polarity Relationships, where each person is in a fixed position. We see ourselves in relation to another: not as strong/rich/pretty, etc.
In our body, we’re trapped in those polarities as long as we have that critical voice in our head ("I’m not good enough, I’m not lovable.")
What kind of polarity relationships might you be trapped in?
When we keep ourselves in polarity relationships, it keeps us from developing healthy relationships.
Where did these polarity relationships begin? With our parents? Being around other children?
Big Idea #2: Changing the Polarity Position
Is there anyone in your life with whom you have a current polarity relationship and you want to change it? Your parents? Your children? Your co-workers? Your siblings?
Ask yourself: What position do I want to release myself from? Do I want to stop being the victim? The dumb one?
How great would you feel if you were able to walk into a room without those polarities? How would it feel to be an equal?
What specific action steps could you take to change a polarity position? Do you need to have a conversation?
Tell the truth to the other person: "I want to have a higher quality relationship with you and I’ve noticed that we seem to have a polarity relationship – I want to release both of us from those positions."
Big Idea #3: Creating Intimacy
We want to love ourselves enough so that we can be completely transparent in our relationships, whether it's people we work with, live with, have known for years, or for only a few days. We wanna be authentic across the board! This happens with Whole Body Consciousness.
To be able to be with somebody else and say, "Here’s what’s happening with me": that's the most effective, efficient communication. "When you said that, I felt this." Now there’s intimacy, transparency and a real conversation.
Be willing to know what’s going on in your body and be willing to share it. In relationships, we often spend time concerned with what the other person is thinking, and what might happen in the future.
In all cases, breathe and check in with your body, so that no matter what kind of situation, whether it's a date, a meeting, a family gathering – we find ourselves in our Whole Body Consciousness.
Other Cool Stuff
Over the next week:
- Am I in any polarity relationships?
- Are there any behaviors I’m expressing as a result of these polarity relationships?
- Who do I want to talk to so that I can release us both from our polarity positions?
- How often do I edit myself, or swallow what I'm thinking?
- Do I ask wonder questions? Am I making assumptions about what others feel?
Quote from this week:
"How can your life change if you identified and released your polarity relationships?"
NEXT WEEK, we'll discuss applying Whole Body Consciousness to transform every area of our lives!
Hope you enjoyed and see you in Week 5 for the final class!
- The en*theos Team