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Michaela Boehm is among the most gifted counselors and teachers to be found globally today. Born and raised in Austria, Michaela received two degrees in Psychology from the University of Vienna and received further extensive training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Hypnosis, NLP, and Yoga.
Upon moving to the United States in 1994, Michaela quickly became counselor to the stars in Hollywood, California, working with the world's best-known celebrities.
Michaela began studying with David Deida in 1997 and in 2007 began co-teaching with him, focusing on women's empowerment in the 21st Century. Michaela is currently the only counselor in the world personally trained and authorized by David Deida.
This week, we talked about fangs and tender a tender heart: moment by moment feedback and expression.
Let's check out a couple of our favorite Big Ideas from this week!
Big Idea #1: Trusting Feedback
Most women have insanely accurate intuition, but very few of us trust what we are feeling. Partly because our own projections are wrapped up in what we're feeling, and also because we have never been validated in that regard. Learning to feel what's on and what's off, and then to give appropriate feedback is one of the more important things when in relationship.
Trust the knowledge of your body to run through whatever it needs to run through. When an emotion is fully expressed it only lasts for a few minutes.
When you feel something, and you express it, it's gone and the next thing appears. It's a moment by moment practice where your body-mind expresses itself in the moment- if that's all there is, there is nothing your head has to do.
Within a short period of time you can go through a massive amount of emotion, which can look "crazy", but it's not crazy if it's just running through.
However, an emotion that appears, but doesn't go away is old garbage and baggage and can create unhealthy expressive tendencies. Try not to get stuck.
Big Idea #2: Showing Fangs
Many women have an easy time showing their angelic softer sides, but it's not really socially acceptable for women to show their fangs. Partly it's because women have never learned to express our anger with an open heart- we have never been taught how to be incredibly angry and vicious without closing our heart off.
How do you keep your heart open?
Feel within yourself when you are shut down, which isn't always easy, because in shut down mode you don't feel that much.
Heart openness must be practiced to show how willing you are to keep your heart open- such as when crying, keep the body, and eyes open as much as possible rather than curling inward.
The practice is to stay with it and stay connected with the other person no matter what emotion comes through- and the darker the emotion the more important it is to stay open... otherwise it's just abuse.
Big Idea #3: Healthy Expression
Within ourselves there is a masculine and there is a feminine- the feminine part of us just experiences and expresses emotions; the masculine part of us observes and processes our emotions.
Observing emotions is a very healthy first step, but it's important to go deeper into our emotions as women and really feel the emotions without thinking about it.
Feel the emotions in your body- where do certain emotions manifest in your body? Example: pit in the stomach means i'm angry.
Feeling emotions in the body is a great way to prevent splashing our emotions all over people. When you feel the emotions, they come and go very quickly- but thinking about our emotions solidifies and prevents the emotion from moving through.
As women, discussing your emotions is a little bit like discussing your body function- almost unnecessary.
We hope you enjoyed and see you in Week 4 for Dancing your Body in the World: Feminine Sexual and Spiritual Practice.
-The en*theos team