Sexual Energy Mastery For Men, Part 1:
Lasting Longer
with Jim Benson
Course Overview
Guys: How would you like to have true choice about when to ejaculate? To feel relaxed and confident that you can ride the rolling waves of sensation and pleasure with your lover — all the while knowing that you are in the driver’s seat, and in control of your own body’s response?
Part 1 of Sexual Energy Mastery for Men is an easy-to-follow five-week program designed to train guys who want a “breakthrough in the bedroom.” It’s a great opportunity to heal sexual shame; to increase relaxation and self-confidence in sexual situations; and to experience a proven program that will extend the duration and degree of your erotic pleasure.
- You’ll learn that ejaculation is a choice, not a requirement, and how to control it — without worry or stress. You’ll also begin the process of separating orgasm from ejaculation — a key component to experiencing the multiple orgasms in Part 2 of the training.
- You’ll be able to put more attention on the connection with your lover, rather than on your anxiety about ejaculating earlier than you’d like. You’ll be able to bring more “heart” to your sexual encounters.
- You’ll clear out pockets of sexual shame, freeing you to bring vital, vibrant energy to all your interactions, and to “juice” your life purpose in the world.
- You’ll begin to cultivate a new relationship to your “animal body.” You’ll feel more appreciation and self-love, more grounded in your body, and more inspiration about your sexuality.
This program is packed with valuable information and practices that you can refer to and use for long after the course has ended.
In this 5-week course, you'll work directly with Jim Benson on how to last longer and feel more during lovemaking.
Who Should Attend?
Guys who:
- wonder “Is this all there is to sex?”
- ejaculate sooner than they’d like
- want to experience more sensation and pleasure during sex
- feel anxious or embarrassed about their sexual “performance”
- want more confidence in bed
What You'll Learn
Week 1. Base Camp Training
This first module is packed with foundational info and practices. Change your mind = change your life!
- The 6 principles to mastering your sexual energy. This is the foundation for the entire program. Fully understanding and embodying just one of them will permanently create positive change in your sex life.
- The 9 types of orgasm for men
- The 4 keys for separating orgasm from ejaculation
- The problem with porn — and what you can do about it
- Cultivating “no-agenda” pleasuring sessions with “non-demanding” erections
- Self-pleasuring fundamentals for future sexual Rock Stars
Week 2. Shame, Relaxation, and Confidence
Here we address important underlying issues that EVERY man must deal with. Until you face them, the process of learning sexual techniques alone will have a limited effect.
- The two levels of sexual trauma and how to deal with their effects
- Toxic sexual shame: The “killer” of healthy expression in the bedroom
- The healing power of genital massage
- Sympathetic vs parasympathetic nervous systems: shifting from anxiety to relaxation in the bedroom
- Beyond posturing or collapse: Experiencing true confidence in the bedroom and in all areas of your life
Week 3. PC Pump & The Pelvic Rock: The "Bread & Butter"
It's no secret that the PC muscle is critical for moving sexual energy. In addition to the specifics of how to “buff up” your PC, you’ll learn a pelvic rocking practice that will supercharge your sex life.
- A two-step process for isolating and strengthening only the PC muscle. This is important, because if you're squeezing other muscles along with the PC, it can actually block the upward movement of the energy.
- How the PC pump exercise will support you in having non-ejaculatory and full-body orgasms in the future.
- A moving yoga pose that will open up your pelvis, even if you tend to have closed hips
Week 4. Sexual Breathing and Streaming: Charging The Body
Ever had a partner say that they wanted to feel your heart more? The sexual breathing practice will energize that area of your body so that you’ll more easily be able to “make love” during sex. Plus the powerful streaming practice will loosen blocks in your energy field.
- Learn the “grounding” and “expansive” styles of sexual breathing.
- How to use your hands to encourage the movement of energy up your body as you breathe. This is especially powerful for being able to last longer without ejaculating.
- The 3 types of streaming movements that will “trick” your brain into thinking that you're already having an orgasm, which will connect the neural pathways to “flip the switch” to making you become multiorgasmic.
- How to open the neural pathways to spread and move energy throughout the body, rather than having it locked down under pressure. (This paves the way for multiple and full-body orgasms in Part 2 of the program.)
Week 5. The “ME Breath”: Putting it all together
Finally, we combine the PC Pump, the Pelvic Rock, and Sexual Breathing into one fluid experience. The ME Breath is the foundation practice that will help you attain Sexual Energy Mastery.
- You’ll begin move energy from your genitals up to your belly. As you begin to track the new sensations, you’ll notice that your genital “fuel” can give you powerful, non-genital experiences of pleasure.
- Adding the power of “intention” and “attention” to the three keys you’ve already learned
- You’ll understand experientially when it's important to time your thrusting movement with your breath, and when it's not.
Dates & Tuition
Date & Time: This course is available now for immediate download!
Tuition: $125
(If cash is tight, we offer a "Pick Your Price" model where you can choose to pay $125/$95. )
What You’ll Get Out of the Course
- Feel more pleasure throughout your body — not just in your genitals.
- Experience greater ejaculatory control
- More immediate connection with your “animal body”
- Experience deeper emotional connection with your partner
- Begin to heal sexual shame
- Greater self-confidence and self-love (inside and outside the bedroom)
Videos for the Course
Each week of this program features one or more suitable-for-work video demonstrations of the techniques above. You can practice the exercises along with Jim as he shows you how it’s done, then practice on your own once you have it down. You’ll get access to all of the videos for Part 1 as soon as you register for the course.
About Jim Benson
Jim Benson has dedicated his life to helping men of all ages and backgrounds love themselves more fully. For the past 10 years, he has been coaching guys to “breakthroughs in the bedroom.” Jim’s programs synthesize the best practices across disciplines to create a powerful transformative environment for men to experience more personal pleasure and relationship satisfaction.
He received his training as a professional coach from the Coaches Training Institute and holds the PCC (Professional Certified Coach) credential from the International Coach Federation. Jim has over 2000 hours of individual, relationship and group coaching experience. You can find out more about Jim’s coaching work at http://jimbenson.net
Jim has led sex and intimacy workshops in the US and in Europe, both on his own and with Margot Anand (author of The Art of Sexual Ecstasy). He has participated in and facilitated men’s groups for the last two decades, including the most established David Deida-based men’s group in the Bay area. Jim’s Awakened Masculine groups, started in 2003, have helped hundreds of men make positive, lasting changes in their lives. Together with his wife Jessica, Jim facilitates Shadow Wedding rituals for engaged couples.
In his previous incarnations, Jim co-authored two books (on art and graphic design) and was a former world champion professional athlete (frisbee freestyle).
Praise for Jim Benson
"My sessions with Jim Benson completely changed my life. Before meeting Jim I suffered from premature ejaculation and had no confidence in the bedroom. I was terrified of physical intimacy. After escaping a toxic marriage I sought Jim's help. Six months later, not only do I love sex with my current partner but I also completely satisfy her. I'm much more confident, relaxed and present in the bedroom. Jim not only taught me practical exercises to help, but he also acted as a mentor to me during my transition into single life. Do yourself a favor and work with Jim!"
—Travis D.
"Thanks to the combination of group work and private coaching I did with Jim, I’m now doing the things I’ve been meaning to do for years. The process was challenging, emotional, and a hell of a lot of fun. Jim is a gifted, insightful and dedicated facilitator. If you want to discover more about who you are, and how to make the most of your life, I highly recommend his work to you."
—Michael Wilk, software developer
"I'm a world-class headhunter and am a professional at recognizing and evaluating human potential: heart, talent, skill and experience. Jim is my top candidate as a sexuality and intimacy coach. He is a full-spectrum man who has helped me and at least seven other powerful men I know personally. Jim is awake, spiritual, compassionate, and gentle while simultaneously being powerful, male, connected to his body, in relationship, and fully in the world. Our one-on-one coaching sessions have formed the pillars of the temple of the realization of my deepest desires."
—Eric Schneider, executive recruiter
"Working with Jim is like having a powerful spirit guide who is intensely on my side and cares deeply about all of me. Our sessions are always profound and fun, and at the end I always feel that my divine soul is closer to the surface. After working with Jim for less than a year, my relationship with my wife is evolving into a depth of love that I always hoped was possible, but never knew how to manifest."
—Philip Heller, author, consultant
Praise for the Sexual Energy Mastery Course
"Jim’s course is a real breakthrough in applying ancient tantric wisdom to increase men's sensual pleasure — and by extension, women's. I have literally doubled my own pleasure during this course, with further increases as I continued to apply the skills I learned in the program."
—Michael Hagerty, professor, UC Davis
"After completing Jim's training (at the age of 63), I had an incredible full-body orgasm with my partner. We are both thrilled, and are looking forward to more! Thank you, Jim, for your guidance and inspiration. Your presence helps me feel and act like the vessel of love I want to be."
—Charles Bookoff, M.D.
“Participating in the SEM program has produced surprising and far-reaching effects in my life. During the SEM training I noticed I became more permeable, more in contact with the world around me, and more open. At the same time I noticed that the muscle armoring around my pelvic floor had disappeared. I also noticed that my center of gravity seemed to have dropped to my lower belly — I now feel what the Japanese call ‘hara.’ Since the program, it seems much easier for me to attract potential sexual partners. A worthwhile investment.”
—T.E., London, England
“I've not yet hit the ‘multiple orgasm’ moment, but I've had a lot of energy move through my body and I am certain that I’ll get there as long as I keep up with the practices. I gained a tremendous amount of confidence in my sexual experience as a result of this training. I now carry the certainty that I am fully responsible for my sexual pleasure, which has opened up my relationship with my partner. Thank you for this course, Jim."
—R.S., Boston, MA
“I thought I knew what sex was, until this program came along! After a few weeks of applying the SEM practices, I could feel my body starting to glow and vibrate, and it became a sustained level of high energy in my body throughout the day. I now realize that there's much more here than I thought.”
—Garrison Cohen, VP at Authentic World
Jim Benson is a sex and intimacy coach who has dedicated his life to helping men experience "breakthroughs in the bedroom." Jim holds a PCC (Professional Certified Coach) credential from the International Coach Federation. Learn more about Jim »

